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Divorced Dad, 43, Dating Teen Barely Older Than His Kids Dragged: ‘Icky’

At first this was hard to believe as I had to just take his word for it. As time has gone on I do believe that this is the case. Due to numerous reasons, he works in another city, he stays with me even times when he could go back home and see his children. I did message his wife too at some point just to clarify that what he was saying was true. As I thought that if they weren’t together she shouldn’t mind me asking and if they were then we both knew where we stood! She never did respond to me but she contacted him and he was not very happy about me going to her.

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It sounds like he might be giving you mixed messages and thereby not yet ready for a relationship. I also think it is a red flag if he was not initially honest about his marital status . Couples do sometimes remain in contact with each other, even after divorce, for different reasons…usually to co-parent. But if they don’t have kids, maybe they’ve agreed to be friends, or they could still have some emotional attachment to each other; it could be that he is not yet over his ex.

We dined at the bar talked mostly about work and his interests etc. My recent experience in New York City with a freshly divorced guy was similar. When I met N, he was one month divorced (although he used “divorced earlier this year”) and I fell for his intellectual and unassuming personality immediately for various reasons which I won’t go into details. What was troubling was also that he was using an alas on Tinder, rather than his real name.

The more time we spend together, the more intense it is, however. We are considerate (I think it’s because both of our exes are abusive people, we are used to catering to the other). Friendship, support, understanding, patience; and while I have recently taken care of some things financially to help him out, he has paid me back almost entirely. I don’t want to lose him as a friend, but don’t know if I can continue as I have been going with constant barriers to us being together at some point and getting really hurt.

After about a month his ex wife told him she is getting remarried which hit him quite hard, and that was the time he came clean to me as he noticed he did not feel ready for a new relationship. We ended up in kind of a FWB situation for 9 months and though he confirmed with me several times that he did not want a relationship, he was always caring, attentive and a gentleman. Wondering until today if he needed a rebound he could care for like he might have done for his ex wife. I did not exactly know how long ago his divorce was finalized. I assume he had been divorced and emotionally checked out long ago.

Here are my thoughts on dating a separated man going through a divorce, something I’ve done twice.

He tried to make a whore a housewife and everyone knew it. I am a lot better mother, person and morally have my life together and I feel like he feel in love with her and got engaged at 7 months and married at 1 year. We have been dating for 7 almost 8 months and he is not even close to telling me he loves me. We talked every day, he would stop by for a kiss in the driveway on the way to pick up his kids, and basically did everything he could to make me feel wonderful and special. In the last couple months I began to feel like he didn’t want to spend as much time with me and wasn’t reaching out as often as he had been.

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I know that those things aren’t always easy. Beer and take out with the guys is way easier then cooking for yourself and going for a run and figuring out how to manage your sleep and your moods. To learn how to work through the anxiety around being alone and to manage the depression that might have popped up during or after the divorce. You learn to let go of any residual pain and guide you in the most effective ways to open yourself back up again. I know that many men think that they don’t need to do this. Many believe that can just move on and find someone else and live happily ever after.

I love him so much, but feel uncertain because he has kept me a secret so far, and he says that he wants me in his life forever, but does not know how to do that. I encourage you to get clear on your vision , and get clear on your needs and requirements . …because that can be the basis on which you make relationship decisions.

Now things are back to how they were before with us – enjoying lighthearted banter, deep conversation and great intimacy. I am not ABSOLUTELY terrified that I may be reading this situation all wrong. It’s a great sign that he’s respectful and understanding of your decision to step back. But I invite you to look closely at the fear that is coming up. Children fare best in a stable environment where they feel respect for the adults in their life. And avoid spending the night with your partner while his kids are with him unless you and your partner have made a serious commitment to each other.

He is 14 years older, has a 3 y/o daughter with his ‘wife’ and has been separated from her for about 2.5years now–they had been together for 10 years, married for 4. I know this is hard…when you’re in love with someone who is not able to fully commit to the kind of relationship that you really want. It sounds like you’re going through a lot.

It’s now 5 months later and I never heard from him. He did some passive aggressive things like post pics of us on social media after we had broken up and “liked” anything I posted, but he has never called or reached out to me to explain what happened. Yes, it’s totally ok to ask those types of questions.